Asking for Help + Self-Advocating

Hello, hello! It's been a hot minute since I blogged out something that wasn't an Abundantly Enough post so I'm excited to be back. I started a new job as a clinical dietitian in February and I'm so excited to share my thoughts on integrating medical nutrition therapy and HAES/intuitive eating, but between that and classes for my Master's - I was overrun. It was good to take a break from blogging just from a time management perspective, but I'm learning that sharing here and on social media is one of my favorite ways to reflect on and refine my values, so here we are. I can't promise consistency or perfection in posting, but I can promise real life and honesty in the hopes that I'll resonate with you the way that my favorite bloggers do with me.


My counselor said something that really resonated with me the other day - that anxiety happens in the past and the future, but not so much the present. Learning how to live in the present instead of allowing imagined scenarios to run wild is a really grounding way to deal with that. In some kind of roundabout way, I've noticed myself being louder about what I need because I know that my present self needs to deal with the present, if that makes sense.

Speaking as a formerly-and-still-sometimes-currently-stubborn person, I'm not huge on asking for help because I can fix everything myself, right? But having a 2017 that included a car accident, a wedding, a cross-country move, and graduate school broke me down and rebuilt me in a way that's more humble, more open, and more willing to ask for help. In the past 6 months, I've asked for more help than ever - and it's been spiraling up in the best ways. In a weird way, involving more people is allowing me to cultivate a healthy selfishness.


I brought in some mentors for my new job that I can bounce ideas off of, help guide me with regulations, and just generally check up on me. Having second opinions is building my confidence, helping me grow, and helping my patients receive the best care because they're getting both experienced and fresh perspectives. I'm the only dietitian for the facility, so it also helps me feel less isolated in my profession.

I also started seeing a dietitian to help me work through some stress, thyroid, and cycle concerns. I carried a lot of stubbornness last year when it came to taking time off to care for my body and seeing healthcare professionals of my own, and it didn't serve me well. So rather than self-treat or deny, I'm working with someone who can provide a fresh, outside perspective on the kind of TLC my body is asking for.


I mentioned this on Instagram (ironically), but I'm trying hard to create boundaries around my phone and social media - which feels really new and unsettling sometimes but also really right to not be plugged in 24/7. It's so nice to be in a social media community that values similar self-care and boundaries that I do, so I can actually turn my brain off and not worry about little picture squares and how to write a caption.


Finally, this question is helping me make decisions in the present and decide where I can advocate for myself and where I can place more/less focus. I tend to think about long-term/future goals only and not what's happening now, so reframing it to display how my present can fuel my future is super helpful.

How was your week, friends? Eat something good this weekend!