I used to envision that there would be a point where I'd arrive with intuitive eating and body image. Like, one day I'd just wake up and love my body and food would always be easy. But I think that the goal is more continuous learning rather than arriving. We're all on a journey and I still have less-than-kind thoughts pop up about my body sometimes, but they're further apart, less loud, and I don't react as quickly or deeply to them. Depending on my mood/day, I can even react to them with humor. Here's three helpful practices for dealing with unkind body thoughts:
When you're starting to move from dieting to a HAES approach, I think one really common question/concern is: how do I love my body beyond my weight? How can I embrace my size and do what's best for myself? How do I love my body, period, when society makes it really hard to be in a body that doesn't fit into a specific mold? First off, I think a better and more productive question is: can I tolerate my body and find other values to focus on? Because as much as it would be nice to have this constantly high level of warm and cheerful love towards our bodies, I don't know that that's a reasonable goal - and I think that's okay.
Today we're chatting about weight, which is something that I think the intuitive eating community generally avoids talking about, and for good reason. We live in such a weight-obsessed culture that it's actually really difficult to tease out a conversation about food and nutrition that doesn't involve/circle around weight. The difference between this mindset and an intuitive eating/health at every size approach is that with IE, weight may be discussed in the respect that it has, in the past, been a factor in making health decisions. It's not used as an indicator of progress. Instead, we use things like feelings towards food, respecting cravings, and honoring hunger/fullness levels. And I think that's just about the best thing ever, because -repeat after me- weight does not determine your value as a person.
The number of posts I see about wedding weight loss is overwhelming. It pains me to see friends posting about "shedding for the wedding" and "juice cleanse" recipes crowding my Pinterest feed. I googled "wedding diets" to browse before writing this post and found some terrifying results, so I’m sharing why I’m not dieting for my wedding and why it’s important to give yourself some grace with your body, engaged or not.