When you're starting to move from dieting to a HAES approach, I think one really common question/concern is: how do I love my body beyond my weight? How can I embrace my size and do what's best for myself? How do I love my body, period, when society makes it really hard to be in a body that doesn't fit into a specific mold? First off, I think a better and more productive question is: can I tolerate my body and find other values to focus on? Because as much as it would be nice to have this constantly high level of warm and cheerful love towards our bodies, I don't know that that's a reasonable goal - and I think that's okay.