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Good For Her, Not for Me | A Life + Business Update

It seems like forever since I shared a more personal update over here, but today feels like a good day because I have allthenews. But first, let's backtrack a little.

THE BACKSTORY

I've known for six years that one day, I'd move away from home to be with Drew wherever he was working. He's a mining engineer, and it limits the locations he can reasonably live since he needs to be on-site for planning and management purposes. Going into college, he knew this was the path he wanted - and since we were high school sweethearts, I knew that it was a very real possibility that it would be the path I'd join him on. Note: I'm thankful for a mother-in-law that encouraged me to choose my own career without considering her son's plans. I pursued a degree in nutrition based on my own passions, and not based on whether I could get a job in the towns where Drew would reasonably be living.

So, for the past six years, I've been somewhere in the middle of 100% doing my own thing + thinking towards the future that Drew and I want to build together. It was challenging to cling to my independence while still dreaming of getting married and starting our life together at a young age (that's a whole other topic for another day). But somewhere along the line, as we started to seriously talk about getting engaged and married, I began to think about what my professional life would or could look like in the towns we'd live in.

And that's when my anxiety ramped up, because dietitian jobs in these towns are limited and the future was incredibly uncertain. So I dug into the information and came up with a reasonably simple solution: I'd open a private practice.

BUILDING SATISFY

I started a small blog in college (that I no longer post to), and toyed around with various business ideas. I liked learning design + entrepreneurship, and loved the idea of creating a personal brand and supporting myself with a blog and practice. The idea of having my own nutrition practice was daunting and terrifying and exciting.

After we got married in August + I moved to rural Idaho where Drew worked, I threw myself into learning how to start a private practice + blogging more. I'm so proud of Satisfy and the opportunities it's given me, from blog collaborations to refining my viewpoints on health to meeting a new best friend on the Internet. I'm grateful to each of the private practice clients I've had for allowing me to be a part of their food freedom and health story. Which brings me to my first and biggest update:

As of March 1, the private practice side of my business is closing and I am no longer accepting clients.

THE "WHY"

I'm making this move for a few reasons, the main one being that I've accepted a job at a local hospital as a clinical dietitian and part of that is a non-compete clause. But I think another equally important reason is that private practice doesn't suit me as well as I thought it would.

If you've read Amy Poehler's "Yes Please", you've read a phrase that changed my life:

Good for her. Not for me.

This more or less sumsup the feelings I have about private practice, even though I've been denying it the last few months. The beautiful and unique thing about the field of nutrition is that it is so diverse + there's so many areas you can work in. From the beginning, I've felt called towards clinical work - but I began to worry that our living situation wouldn't let me respond to that calling. The more I fought to suppress my love for clinical nutrition (in what I thought was an act of self-preservation), the more my anxiety around my job rose.

I think dietitians who have private practices are awesome. I have the highest respect for all of my friends and mentors that rock their businesses and create their own path and help allthepeople. But I also think that maybe this path isn't for me - so it's time to explore how I can serve people through clinical work (and still incorporate HAES/IE, don't worry)!

WHAT'S NEXT

I had my orientation at my new job on Wednesday, and I'll be there ~32 hours/week (I'm still completing my Master's degree via a distance program, so splitting time made the most sense). The job I'm stepping into is a big one, with a wider variety of responsibilities than a typical clinical RD would have, so I'm giving myself some time to adjust and grow into this position before refocusing on blog content. However, once I get settled in, I'll be back with a regular posting schedule! In the meantime, I'll still be co-hosting the Abundantly Enough group + finishing our current blog series.

If you're looking for a Health at Every Size/Intuitive Eating dietitian to guide you through eating disorder recovery, general nutrition, digestive issues, etc. - I am happy to refer you to my talented friends! 

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On Wedding Diets | Why I'm Not Losing Weight for my Wedding

This post was updated Jan. 2018 I don't know how the world knows, but the second you get engaged, you also get 10,000 ads for registries in the mail, emails for dresses and flowers and DJ's out the wazoo, etc. It's everywhere and it's an exciting time and you should soak it up. It doesn't last long and it's a (mostly) fun season!

I've been engaged for approximately forever (not really, but 2 years by the time we tie the knot in August 2017) so I feel like I've been soaked in "wedding" for a looooong time by now. Mostly, I'm okay with it. I've scored some good deals and gone to some fun events. We have vendors we love, and they don't mind me emailing them every so often with random questions. But the one thing I could do without is the ads for wedding diets.

st-louis-wedding-photographer-7127The number of posts I see about wedding weight loss is overwhelming. It pains me to see friends posting about "shedding for the wedding" and "juice cleanse" recipes crowding my Pinterest feed. I googled "wedding diets" to browse before writing this post and found some terrifying results (feeding tubes, liquid diets, the list goes on). Friends. There are so so many reasons why you need to love on yourself and give yourself grace during this and every season of life.

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TURN INWARD, NOT OUTWARD

First of all, by making changes for your wedding, you're exchanging your life for one day. You're turning away from what really feels good and letting external factors control your life. Even if you love what kind of movement you're doing or making great changes like emphasizing fruits and veggies in your diet, the idea of making any kind of change for your wedding gives you a hard deadline to meet some kind of endpoint.

It can make it feel like celebrating holidays with your favorite foods or even wedding cake tasting is a "fail" on your part when really it's just human and an exciting part of being engaged. Engagements usually last a few months to a few years. There's a lot of fun holiday and party foods in a year. And by sticking to a diet for your wedding, you can socially isolate yourself all because of food. Or, you'll eat the food anyway and end up overeating because you already "ruined" your day. That in turn can lead to crash dieting, food restricting, and stress, all of which can cause your body (and mind) more harm than good. All that focus on what you eat and how much you work out can lead to you not being able to enjoy your engagement, your fiancé, or even just life in general.

WEDDING DIETS (AND ALL DIETS) DON'T WORK

Secondly, diets don't work. Even if you see short-term weight loss with a wedding diet, there can be lasting negative effects. I love this video by Robyn Coale (The Real Life RD) explaining how diets and exercise may cause you to see fast weight loss but can also rebound and throw hormones out of whack. Diets can also be really socially isolating, taking the joy out of eating and making you feel alone.

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If your upcoming wedding or any other event is causing you to re-examine your health habits, dedicate some time to sorting through those feelings. Ask yourself why you're considering making changes, and what your life would look like when they were made. Be cautious of making changes for other people, for photographs, and for a dress. And of course, remember that your wedding day is the start of your marriage, not an end-all-be-all day that requires perfection at every turn.

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UPDATE: SEE OUR WEDDING!

Looking for posts about our wedding? Click here!

why I didn't lose weight for my wedding, from a registered dietitian